Not all men: How discussing women’s issues gets derailed.

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Not all men: How discussing women’s issues gets derailed..

“Why is it not helpful to say not all men are like that?’ For lots of reasons. For one, women know this. They already know not every man is a rapist, or a murderer, or violent. They don’t need you to tell them.

Second, it’s defensive. When people are defensive, they aren’t listening to the other person; they’re busy thinking of ways to defend themselves.

…Third, the people saying it aren’t furthering the conversation, they’re sidetracking it. The discussion isn’t about the men who aren’t a problem.”

hmmmm.

Your Princess Is in Another Castle: Misogyny, Entitlement, and Nerds – The Daily Beast

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Your Princess Is in Another Castle: Misogyny, Entitlement, and Nerds – The Daily Beast.

One geeks thoughts on geek culture after some dork goes on a rampage and blames it on a girl who spurned him in middle school.

Some great bits:

“But the overall problem is one of a culture where instead of seeing women as, you know, people, protagonists of their own stories just like we are of ours, men are taught that women are things to ‘earn,’ to ‘win.’ …Like life is a video game and women, like money and status, are just part of the reward we get for doing well.”

“To paraphrase the great John Oliver, listen up, fellow self-pitying nerd boys—we are not the victims here. We are not the underdogs. We are not the ones who have our ownership over our bodies and our emotions stepped on constantly by other people’s entitlement. We’re not the ones where one out of six of us will have someone violently attempt to take control of our bodies in our lifetimes.”

“What did Elliot Rodger need? He didn’t need to get laid. None of us nerdy frustrated guys need to get laid. When I was an asshole with rants full of self-pity and entitlement, getting laid would not have helped me.

He needed to grow up.”