To White Feminists Who Don’t Want to Discuss Racism: Here Are 7 Things You Need to Know — Everyday Feminism

Dear Author,

I too roll my eyes when I see an article entitled, “Dear White Feminists,” but apparently not for the same reasons as your preachy ass. I don’t roll my eyes because I don’t like to talk about race. Heck, for a white person, I am probably a little too comfortable talking about race for most people’s comfort.

I roll my eyes because feminist never speak in the “we” anymore. They talk in terms of “you.” …And “you” better sign onto their exceedingly better than yours version of being a progressive, a feminist, and a right thinking human being.

You want to know what is wrong with feminists of a particular ethnicity? Ask feminists of another ethnicity. It is both infuriating and disgusting to see yet another article that is all about holier-than-thou preachy division, but please go on. Please, I’m dying to read your detailed and whiny explanations of why you are a better feminist and just generally a better person than I am. Please force feed me your mass generalizations and stereotypes and please, please, please base all of them on a overly simplistic view of race.

Because like you, I am also a 2 year old and  I have no empathy for others, no over-riding belief in justice for all, no ability to see or discern subtlety, and absolutely zero awareness of the world outside my tiny little bubble of self congratulation. In fact nothing gives me a righteous sense of self-satisfaction like reading about how another white person stopped being an asshole. Well, except for reading about how, because I am white, I must be as ignorant and obnoxious as the author was before they had this trope enlightenment.

Just because you were a self-absorbed ignorant little cunt-rag at one point in your life doesn’t mean everyone of a similar ethnic background is.

Stop disguising white privilege lectures as feminism and start talking about the shared and nuanced condition of women in our society and in the world as a whole or sit down, put a fucking cork in your bullshit, and shut the fuck up.

Feminism is an actual topic outside how one checks one’s own white privilege. You want to write about race? Fine. Write about race. You want to write about how race impacts the goals of feminism, then actually write about that. I’m all ears. Until then, just admit that you’d prefer to assuage your white guilt by writing bullshit that accomplishes zilch. We are all so fucking proud of you for learning how to tie your shoes, cross the street, and realize that you -as a white person- have many advantages that you shouldn’t assume others possess. Good for fucking you.

You’re not helping, you’re not uniting, you’re not even saying anything new or profound. Step away from the obvious, stop confusing basic human consideration and manners with feminism, and find a another way to sabotage and divert the cause you trite, myopic little girl.

-PG