I’ve spent several days thinking about Rev. Run, Tyrese, Amber Rose and their conversation about sexual consent on OWN’s It’s Not You, It’s Men. In short: Amber Rose had to explain that “no means no,” Tyrese talked about women’s sexual energy practically forcing men to “grope” them and Rev. Run threw in a heavy dose of respectability politics to justify men being disrespectful to women.

It was … troubling, to put it mildly. These two men, who are hosting a show about relationships, also wrote a best-selling book about relationships (hence the show), and there they sat, on national television, unable to grasp basic concepts like consent and that what a woman wears isn’t a pass to treat her badly or fondle her. These are the men, the supposed-to-be-enlightened ones, advising women about relationships? Seriously?

Women, Stop Listening to Sexist Relationship ‘Experts’

Amen, girl.