In the new gender binary, he has no home. Cisgender vs. transgender. He’s neither.

In the old gender binary, he has no home. Male vs. female. He’s neither.

So, still, I find myself fighting a gender binary while explaining my son’s gender identity and expression.

…When I saw transgender education and acceptance coming to the forefront, I expected things to be different.

I thought that if society could see, start to understand and accept transgender people (which some consider to be at the very extreme end of the cisgender-transgender gender binary), that they would have no problem at all accepting all of the people who are “just” gender nonconforming.

We have to get beyond trans. Let’s make that the next social movement. Let’s get to the point where we say, “Hey, I don’t know if that person is male or female or both or neither, so I’m just going to treat them like a person” or “My brain tells me to use female pronouns for that person but the person tells me to use masculine pronouns, so I’m going to masculine pronouns because what the hell does it matter to me?!” or “That guy likes to wear skirts. Cool.”

Let’s respect every person’s unique gender journey by not believing in any binary. Let’s bust the binary. Once and for all.

The New Gender Binary

A-fucking-men, sister. A-fucking-humen.